When my husband was away for a few days recently, I decided to take full advantage of my alone time. I put my pajamas on early. Hallmark channel. A good book. Time to write. I even cranked up the music and starred in my very own concert.
The next day, I had an appointment in town but did not see it completely necessary to look my best after all my husband would not see me. I might have even skipped shaving my legs. Might. No admission here. I somehow felt the need to explain my less than best appearance upon arriving for my appointment. Suddenly shame and embarrassment took over. One of the nice people at the office commented, “Wow. You dress up for your husband. Mine gets my sweat pants.”
We may still be newlyweds but I want to give him the very best of me always. I also want to improve on the me that I gave him on our wedding day. I want to be a better version of me each and every day. A gift. Why is that we so often allow ourselves to give those that are closest to us the very worst version of ourselves? The phrase putting on your Sunday best comes to mind.
It seems to me that we should give our spouses, our children, our families and friends the gift of our presence through manners, ambition, kindness, excellence, respect, a positive attitude, even a clean and organized environment. So often we fall into the trap of giving our best appearances to strangers and acquaintances.
Turn it around for a minute. Think about being on the receiving end. I have a friend who feels that her mother treats total strangers with more respect than she or her father. Imagine being married to someone who peaked on your wedding day. They never reach their full potential and in the process rob you of your potential as a couple. Children that do not see their parents achieving or being their best are taught not to strive.
So I ask, are you giving your best? If not, it is not too late to wrap yourself up and be the present you were meant to be.
The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, while the soul of the diligent is richly supplied.
Proverbs 13:4 (ESV)
Until next time,