I may not be the typical girl when it comes to Valentine’s Day. I believe it was a day created by card companies to enhance profits. Admittedly, when all the hype is being commercially forced down your throat with endless jewelry and cupcake commercials and everyone on social media is posting pictures of flowers and jewelry and such, somehow you find yourself being a participant – intentional or not.
Valentine’s Day can be a dreaded day for those that are unhappily single, those in relationships that aren’t what they should be, those who have lost the love of their life, those who cannot be with their significant other and many other scenarios – too many to list every one!
I have been in many of the above categories. Actually, I find myself in one this very day. My husband is miles away and I am home with my perfect princess yorkie and my unruly Jack Russell puppy.
The thing I have learned is that it is not the days (Valentine’s Day, Wedding Day, Birthday) that are the most important. It is making the most of everyday in between! One of the most uncomfortable things is insincerity. Receiving a card from someone who treats you less than your worth 364 days a year and then buys you a card on Valentine’s Day out of a sense of obligation when in fact it is the other 364 days that are most important. Every day should be Valentine’s Day in a relationship! We should not treat someone special on a day that someone else defined as the day to show our love but rather everyday.
Effort matters. My husband knowing he would be away, thinking ahead, ordered a small gift that would arrive in his absence so that I would have something to open today. Although the gift was lovely, the fact that he thought about this day and my feelings some time ago means more than the gift itself.
Being with someone who invests in you, believes in you, supports you, cherishes you, values you, thinks about you, loves you like the cherished gift that you are EVERYDAY is worth far more than being with someone who simply gives out of a sense of obligation on Valentine’s Day. I would rather feel special for the other 364 days!
I can tell you that I did not find this type of guy on my own. God found him for me. When I focused on loving God, He took care of the rest. God gave me my everyday Valentine. A man that loves God more than me and I am so okay with that! Learning how to put God first has taught us both how to value one another fully.
Fairfield, I am so grateful for you today and everyday. Thanks for honoring me not just today but everyday. I am so proud of the man that you are. Your love of God, your integrity, your character, your smile, your thoughtfulness, and most of all your heart.
I always wanted an EVERYDAY Valentine and in you I have been given just that.
Until Next Time,