Happy Sunday Friends!
I am so thankful for each of you every day. I am not choosing to share my gratitude just because it is November but rather because my heart is so full that it is spilling over into my mind and thus the keyboard.
How many of us heard as children that we should be grateful for what we had in a way it made us feel ashamed for wanting more? In my case, it made me feel like gratitude was a punishment. I tucked my head and muttered some words under my breath and walked away or sunk even further into my chair. Gratitude. Shmatitude!
Gratitude was a “should” and not a “get to” or the true “privilege” that it is.
As an adult who has chosen to live my best life, talk of gratitude fills the books that I read. It is the topic of numerous dialogues and the theme of life for so many that I admire.
Gratitude became part of my journey. I started with a gratitude journal. I chose a pretty one that caught my eye. I would write in it uncommitedly for a week or so and then it would get buried under something and I would “forget.” I am ashamed to tell you how long I have had that journal and even more ashamed to admit the pages are not yet full. When I would pick it back up and see the last date that I posted, I would feel guilty. The guilt was so heavy that it swallowed up the feelings of gratitude related to whatever I intended to write about.
We do and pursue what we value. I would tell myself that I would do it in the evening or tomorrow. I was still viewing gratitude as a chore rather than the gift that would unlock my very best life.
I began to feel stagnant and like my life was going nowhere. Honestly, I needed to stay right where I was at until I could learn that being grateful for the moments, people, and things in my life was truly the most important thing of all. I am not even talking about the big things either. I am talking about the smallest moments of my everyday ordinary life.
I even heard mega stars talking about being grateful for the challenges and difficult people in your life. WHAT??? For real? I could not imagine being thankful for some of THOSE people.
I decided to commit to gratitude – to learning about it, to exploring it, but most of all to feeling it deep within my soul. My commitment involved pausing to reflect before I even started my day. Yes, I committed to beginning everyday with an expression of gratitude. I bought a new journal – one that I did not associate with guilt but rather one that screamed commitment and hope.
I placed it by my bedside table and actually felt anticipation for the morning. My new journal only listed a space for 3 things that I was grateful for. It removed the pressure of feeling like I needed to write a book. Oddly enough, as days went on I found that 3 lines were not enough and began writing in that old previously guilt ridden journal as well. Think of it as overflow! I quickly realized that was symbolic of my life. My life was overflowing with greatness.
I also used to think that I “had” to think of something new each day to be thankful for. I HAD TO…not that I “got” to! I began to reframe my thoughts and realized what a privilege it was having something or someone so consistent in your life that you could be grateful for them over and over again! So yes, warm blankets are a thing on my list almost every single day. I do not like being cold. Right above blankets –God, Fairfield, my furkids, and friends.
I would also like to share that I have never been a morning person. I used to be more of a night owl. Burying my head under the covers, delaying the start of my day was signature Cynthia. Starting my day with gratitude has changed all of that. Actually, it has changed my life. I wake up excited and feeling blessed. I look for the greatness in everyday – even in the challenges.
Being grateful is a choice. It is a way of life. It is not something that we “have” to do.
Expressing gratitude for what we have does not mean we cannot have or want more. In fact, it gives us more from the very moment that we embrace it.
Feel free to share some of the things that you are grateful for below!
Until Next Time,