This may not resonate with everyone but I am betting everyone knows at least one person that it will resonate with. It is my hope that you will share this with them! These are things that I wish someone had told me!
When I was younger, I seriously used to pray that my parents had adopted me and that my real parents would someday come find me. I used to think that an orphanage or foster care would provide me with a better life and more opportunities. In fact, it just may have. I will never know.
I used to fantasize about being sent to boarding school. Does anyone remember “The Facts of Life?”
I used to envy children that had parents that modeled success to them. Character. Morals. Ethics. I desperately wanted to be more than the soup I was living in. My parents had zero drive for more.
I also envied those who came from families that could send their children off to quality institutions of higher learning. Any institution of higher learning! Learning can come from so many sources not just a classroom.
Something that I have come to hold dear is that we may not be born into those opportunities. We may even be born into situations of deficit and despair. However, it does not stop there.
Even in the midst of the worst situation, you can always read, hope, and dream. Reading saved my life. There are still libraries and they are still free. They even offer a peaceful environment if your home life does not.
Stop watching trash on television. Stop spending all of your time on Facebook unless you are on their payroll. It will not help you rise from the hole that you are in. Stop listening to negative song lyrics. You need hope and inspiration. You already know enough about hardship.
Choose friends that are going places and I am not talking about the mall or the closest gaming station. I understand the imaginary world when you so desperately want to escape your own. Choose an imaginary world that teaches you skills for the future!
If this seems lame to your friends, you need new friends. Friends are people who want the very best for you, challenge you, and believe in you. Friends dream with you!
Be kind. Be polite. Be truthful. I know that may be the last thing you want to do. I am sure you want somebody to be those things to you. I am so sorry and my heart hurts for you. I have been right there. Give what you want to receive and someday it will find its way back to you. Be more than what you have been given.
You might find yourself in survival mode. The key is to survive! Once you get past whatever you are going through, thrive!
This is just a chapter in your life. I promise! You can write new ones if you equip yourself to do so. That is your job.
Your experiences will become your story of success that inspire others.
I do not know what stage in life you find yourself while reading this. This is not just for teens. You could easily be a stay at home mom feeling trapped without hope for the successful life that you once dreamed of (although being a stay at home mom makes you a success in my book.) Maybe you are overweight and you just stopped caring. Maybe you are a man that is trapped in a job that does not fulfill you. Maybe you are single and think you always will be. Your change may be the story that inspires someone else to become the very best version of him or herself.
This much is true. No matter where you find yourself or what situation you find yourself in – nothing will change until you do even if it is just your attitude or outlook.
Dream. Imagine. Believe. Become.
It is never too early or too late to transform your life. Transforming your life is a daily decision. It is a commitment to yourself that you HONOR!
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Until Next Time,