It is a rainy, dreary, cold day in Virginia. I brought all of my office essentials into my bedroom (I work from home) and laid them out all over my bed – me in the middle and all of my projects in a perfect semi-circle in front of me! I almost forgot to include that my two assistants are amidst the paperwork SNORING! Honestly, this is my preferred way to work in this old farmhouse. I can see out windows in two directions – a giant magnolia tree that seems to reach the sky in one direction and a freshly harvested soybean bean field in the other. My perfect vibe. Not the rainy, dreary, cold part! I believe you all know by now that I do not like to be cold!
As I took a moment away from the tasks at hand, I was reminded of a conversation that I had this week. I used to feel that unless my planner was full of appointments and calls that I was somehow unimportant. I needed the business card with my name and title to validate my “importance.” That card must have felt like a brick when I handed it to someone as it had a good bit of ego attached! The truth be told all THAT business card said was that I was not in charge of my own life. My card looked just like everyone else’s in my organization aside from my name, title, and extension. I was indeed a minion and the funny thing is I did not even know it!
So interesting how much I have grown as a person since then!
These days I prefer my planner to have more white space. White space tells me that I am in control of time and managing it effectively. It tells me that I am enjoying a cappuccino or a mimosa for breakfast or a walk around the plaza chatting with vendors at lunch. It tells me that I am saying “Yes” to me more than to the demands of others. My former planner was filled with people demanding, needing, and not appreciating. Now, people are there due to collaboration, synergy, creative genius, and most of all mutual respect.
Busyness does not equate to productivity. I have had days where one meeting followed another and a smoke cloud filled the room because that is all that was being spat out by the corporate bosses heading the meetings. Not ideas. Not solutions. Just ego. I used to crave that life until I realized that it was killing my dreams and robbing me of the person I was meant to become one day at a time.
I define success much differently these days.
Success now is defined by the joy I feel each day and the impact that I am able to make in the lives of others. I am a cheerleader of sorts. Thank God I do not have to do the gymnastic parts of it! Although some times it does take some intricate “dance” moves to get people to see all of the possibilities that I see inside of them!! I absolutely love helping others take steps toward their best self and best life. My work feels like play. The very best description that I can offer is that I feel like a kid with a coloring book all day everyday and a fresh box of crayons. Oh how I love the smell of a fresh box of crayons!
Oh, and the business card. I almost forgot. I now get a say in every aspect of the design and it is as unique as I am. I do not even care if I have one really. I strive to make such an impression with my authenticity and warmth that people will remember me without one! I want people to know that they matter. The card used to say that I mattered at least in my perception.
Don’t let your worth be defined by your calendar, your planner, or your business card (especially the title that is on it!) Let your worth be determined by the joy that you bring to those around you. The more joy you give the more you get and there just isn’t a card for that!
Until Next Time,
C (AKA The Crayon™ Coach. Helping people recolor their lives!)