I have been writing this post for days in my head. Funny how that happens. Often I have it complete before I ever type my words. Oddly enough, that is similar to life for some. Life for them is complete before they have really lived.
I will use my mother for example. She died young but in so many ways she never really lived at all. Her world was very small. It normally consisted of the few blocks that surrounded her. She was scared of what was beyond her little part of the world. An airplane? No way! Because of that, I grew up with limited exposure to the world and some rather limiting beliefs. She had such an amazing story that could have impacted so many. The only way her story goes any further now is through the influence that she had on others – in this case, me.
I have had several friends over the past week that have lost loved ones and it truly caused me to intrinsically reflect. We are all going to die. Fact. We cannot escape death. What we can escape, is living a dead life.
We need to live significant lives! Lives that touch other lives. Through travel, through positive influence, through motivation, through caring, through friendship, through love and through adventure.
If someone told you that tomorrow was your last day, would you have regrets? Would you wish you had?
What does your perfect life look like? Have you settled for less than the thoughts that come flooding into your mind when you think of your perfect life?
What is important to you? Who is important to you?
What excuses are you making that keep you from having your perfect life?
I am not sure when life became more about work than family. How many of us compromise valuable time with our families due to work obligations? I know that I actually worked on my wedding day.I recently moved cross country and my boss was concerned with how long it would take me to drive coast-to-coast because there was no one else that could do my job. The only solution was that I had to work throughout my move. I actually pulled over at rest stops in snow and ice to take care of my clients.
Recent articles have highlighted that the new norm is that most people end up being compensated or taking payouts in lieu of their vacation time because they are not able to get away. It makes me sad to think of all of the people that work for the day that they can retire and start living when we are not even sure that day will come.
I for one found the love of my life – late in life. I have already missed so much life with him. I cannot imagine throwing another day away working for a company that had no regard for me as a person and sacrificing time with the one person that considers me to be the most important person in the world!
I personally went as far as considering trading for more of the same. Leaving one job for another. What was I thinking??? Why would I want to spend one more season of my life doing more of the same and receiving the same? Receiving so little! Putting my dreams on hold while I worked to help someone else achieve theirs? What you allow will continue.
I fired my boss. Life goes on. Funny, the job that “no one else could do” so that I could have time to move or vacation with my family is now getting done by someone else. The world that had chained me has gone on without me. The impact that I made there is reflected by relationships created and friendships made, nothing else. In the short time that I have been away, I have met new people and been exposed to new opportunities that I simply could not see as being possible within the confines of a world defined by someone else.
I want to live and enjoy right now – not later! I want to live my perfect life NOW.
Defining my own life. God first. Family. And then all the rest-
Here’s to new friends (Spoon & T. – “Boom!”)
Until Next Time,