My husband and I have the cutest little rent house. It is white with a shingled roof, mature trees, and nicely kept yard. It makes you think “cottage in the country.” We receive numerous inquiries from people that are interested in renting it based on what they see from the outside.
What they do not know is that the inside of that cute little cottage is an utter wreck! It is completely unlivable. There is nothing okay about the inside of that house, not even remotely okay – thanks to latest and greatest tenants. I am apprehensive to even go inside.
Be it a gift or a curse, as a writer, I see things differently. Every time that I drive by that rent house, I think about people – people that are well put together on the outside but are as messed up as that house on the inside.
There are two things about this that I want to point out.
First, most people do not want you to know they are messed up inside. People will go to great lengths to make sure they offer great curb appeal. Isn’t that why we wiggle and squeeze ourselves into Spanx™? How do we even do that by ourselves? Seems more like a group project if you ask me! It is exactly the same thing ladies! We are false advertising. When those things come off… well, ya know. Busted can of biscuits!
On a deeper level, people will go to great extremes to hide their unhappiness, issues with self-esteem, or lack of confidence – not just from others but from themselves!
Admitting these things requires action and calling it like it is, most of us are not ready or willing to take action. So, we smile instead of addressing our inside mess.
Secondly, every single day we compare ourselves to the outsides of others – the parts that we see. Think about that for a moment. Ladies, we all do this! We compare and compete with one another in our minds based on how things appear not knowing how they truly are!
The inside of their house just might be as messed up as ours!
How do we solve this?
Smile. Be grateful for the beautiful, hot mess that you are.
Only compete with yourself but celebrate everyone’s successes!
Check yourself. Be honest. If you are unhappy with an area of your life, fix it! You are the only one who can. We must quit denying and disguising our own messes. Stop applying duct tape even if it is pink to your issues. Just like the rent house, sometimes we have to tear down some walls rather than patching them. We have to do the work. We are all fixer uppers!
Fixating on someone else will not fix you. Happiness is an inside job.
Until Next Time,