Project Unplugged: Day One
Last month I completed my first fast ever. The effects spanned far greater than simply not eating for 60 hours.
I have since read that a diet changes the way that you look and a fast changes the way that you see. Perhaps the reason I am so excited to do it again this month. Things have been blurry, clouded.
I saw a sign not that long ago that said “More time on Facebook equals less time in the faith book.” To say that I was convicted would be an understatement.
Today when I went looking for my Bible, I had no idea where it was. I could easily locate my phone. Just say’n. So let me be clear, yes I can and do look things – “Bible things” – up on my phone on Bible apps. But, let’s be real. There is just something about a used, torn, tattered, tear-stained, highlighted, dog-eared Bible that says… used. It says saint. Jesus follower. When I see a good USED Bible my heart smiles. You just cannot get that from a Bible app on your phone.
I look forward to this fast with anticipation. Not only am I fasting from food, I am fasting from Facebook. I decided to remove Facebook from my phone and to clear the next few days from distractions.
I am not saying Facebook, or social media is a bad thing. What I am saying is that just like anything, we often allow these things to take precedence over the here and the now. I am guilty of being more involved with people that I barely know thousands of miles away rather than interacting with my husband across the table from me at a restaurant. I know how much it bothers me when he is on his phone rather than with me in the moment. I cross my arms. Tap my feet. Have you been there?
How can we be in the presence of those that we love and not be present?
I felt that God was asking me this very question. Why can’t you just spend time with me? God wants to be first and he was not my first thought in the morning nor my last at night. I was far too eager to check my phone. It often led to a lot of wasted time. I always had good intentions thinking I would just quickly check my notifications (social media, email, etc) ten minutes at best and but lacked the discipline to stick to that. Thirty minutes to forty-five minutes later, I would find myself saying that my personal development, quiet time, or writing would just have to wait until later. Later. What a word. Later never seemed to happen.
So here we are day one. Facebook gone from my phone. It is 6 o’clock and my fast from food has begun.
Any big revelations so far?
Yes, when I cleared the noise – I began to hear from God.
Project Unplugged: Day Two
Today I learned that I have been guilty of using Facebook in order to avoid dealing with uncomfortable situations. If someone hurt my feelings, I would turn to Facebook and begin endlessly scrolling. I would do this to avoid conflict.
If I was bored, I would entertain myself with Facebook rather than reading or other activities that I enjoy. It was just easier. It was right at my fingertips. Never out of sight.
If there was a task that I really did not want to do… yep, Facebook.
On the ferry, typically my husband and I are both on our phones rather than being with each other. Or, if it is me and my stepson, he is on his iPad and I am on my phone rather than engaging with each other.
It seems no one is really ever too far away from their phone.
Nothing is more irritating than being with someone (friend, family) in the middle of a moment that you should be sharing and having to take a pause while they have to upload a photo to Facebook. Can’t it wait? Shouldn’t it wait? Doesn’t it detract from the moment?
Essentially, today I learned that I have used Facebook as a crutch. How do I know? I picked up my phone today (after having removed Facebook) on multiple occasions. Suddenly, there was nothing there to look at and I re-engaged in the moment.
I actually thought today, my own thoughts rather than filling my brain with a bunch of crap that I cannot unsee from Facebook. We talk about filters and guarding our minds yet we open the floodgates to all sorts of unfiltered input every time we click on that icon. Again, I am not saying it is all bad but how much does it really take to detour us from our purpose, our passion, and our families?
Well not today and not tonight. Today we spent time as a family at Paint On Pottery. We created masterpieces that we will have for years to come! Tonight we had family game night. More than that we had laughs, great laughs. Lots of them! Facebook did not take priority over my priorities. I never realized how much I was missing.
Oh, and to update you on the food fast, I am almost at well over 24 hours and feeling great. Actually, we have made the food fast a family affair as well. I am quite certain we will all laugh and smile when we recall this fast and the time we all had Pink Himalayan Sea Salt as a snack while on the ferry. Perhaps, you just had to BE there (present in the moment.)
See you back here tomorrow.
Project Unplugged: Day Three
I do not know about you but my days have enough drama without me inviting more in. I mean just Chloe and Mojo fighting over bones normally requires my intervention! Let’s not even mention Gracie (Chloe’s beloved stuffed Yorkie pal!)
So while fasting, I have been thinking about things (unnecessary, within my control things) that rob me of my peace by inflicting drama, conflict, or just frustration into my life. You guessed it. One of those things (on occasion) has been Facebook. I have written well-meaning sentiments both publicly and privately only to be chastised later and ended up with hurt feelings. I do tend to wear my feelings on my sleeve. I am a sensitive soul. I hurt for myself and I hurt for others. In any case there are enough opportunities for that without Facebook, wouldn’t you say?
I have always thought of people’s Facebook pages similar to a personal journal. A place where they can post photos, sayings, and thoughts. If I happen to be scrolling past and see something that I do not like, I keep on scrolling. However, it would seem that some just do not exercise that discipline! Someone always has to offer up their two cents! Sometimes other people’s drama invades my space that way. It has even happened to me. A simple post that someone could choose to agree or disagree with or simply ignore but instead they decided to make my personal journal their platform to show their ass. Even though there is an unfriend button, it does not change the slight bit of drama or state of pissed offness that you were momentarily sucked into.
Side note: I do not consider myself to be the grammar police, spelling –YES! Sometimes, the rants do not bother me nearly as much as the misspelled words!
I would ask how does that momentary madness affect the rest of your day? Do you let it go or do you carry it with you?
This is the same reason I choose not to watch the news!
My peace is worth more.
To be fair, there are some things I love about Facebook. Keeping up with old friends. Seeing MOTIVATIONAL, INSPIRATIONAL, THOUGHT PROVOKING posts. I am always grateful to the people that share recipes and ideas from Pinterest because I just cannot figure that one out nor do I intend to try. Does Pinterest confuse anyone else?
In contemplating the end of my fast and return to Facebook, one thing I have decided is that I more than likely will limit my comments to other’s posts, limit tagging. The ol’ like button is looking pretty good right now – rather benign I would say.
Since what we do the first hour of our day sets the stage for our whole day, I have decided Facebook will not be included in that window. Not just Facebook…but rather anything other than God, the books on my nightstand, my furkids who are oh so happy when I wake up, and my hubby. The furkids are only listed before the hubby because he gets up before me so the furkids are the first that I see!
Who would have thought that a fast (removing something, anything from your life -not just food – on purpose) could provide so much clarity? Oddly, in life it has taken me getting away from things and people (job, relationships, influences) before I realized how utterly wrong they were for me. Sometimes it is just too hard to see truth when you are in the midst of the cloud. Sometimes you do not even realize your view is clouded.
I think we could all benefit from unplugging once in a while! Resetting. Evaluating ourselves. Setting new goals. Dreaming new dreams. Being introspective. Thinking our own thoughts. Feeling with our own heart. Getting away from all of the cultural toxicity (my husband introduced me to that term last night when we were talking to each other!)
Just my two cents!
Until Next Time,