I have so many people ask me one question. How? How did I lose weight? How did I make the jump from the corporate world to pursuing my true daydream?
How seems to be one of the “heaviest” words in our vocabulary. You can have the greatest momentum imaginable propelling you toward your dream if it is vivid enough in your mind. However, if you shift your focus for a split second to think about “how” suddenly your progress comes to a screeching halt. Imagine strapping bricks to your feet and trying to run! It stops dreams in their tracks. You leave skid marks from your Jimmy Choo’s all the way from the coffee shop back to the desk where you have all the shiny pictures of what you want your life to look like staring down at you from your vision board!
I can tell you that you will never have all of the answers to the HOW before or even when you get started. Something always comes up along the way. A.L.W.A.Y.S.
The most important question for you to focus on is WHY. Why do you want it?
If you have a strong enough WHY then you just DO! You get started. You take the leap of faith. You jump out of the boat into the unknown waters and swim for success. Even when you close your eyes, it is as if the why is glued to the inside of your eyelids. You cannot get away from it and you do not want to!
When your WHY is that strong, you commit. You go all in. You invest yourself. You stay up late and wake up early! Life becomes exhilarating.
I want to share a little visual with you that I use daily. Everyone that I have ever shared this with always comes back to me telling me how much it has helped them.
When you DECIDE that you want something (result) and your reason (WHY) is strong enough you choose to commit to it. I do not know about you but I am a visual learner. When I wanted to lose weight, I woke up one day and said, “NO MORE!” I imagined that in my mind (brain) there was a wall of light switches that only I had the power to turn off or on. I walked right up to the one that was labeled “Eat like crap” and turned it off! I committed to my result right then and there. I did not know how but that was not the first step! In this instance I have been fortunate that I have not needed to go back to make sure that the switch (breaker) did not get flipped! It has stayed off. However, with other things there have been times that I have had to take the walk back to my light switch and flip it again – recommit! Something important to remember. Only YOU have access to those switches – the breaker box of your life!
My first step was deciding followed by committing!
Once you do that, your mind becomes more open to all the possibilities – HOW!!!
So for today, I ask you what is the one thing that you want more than anything? And why? Why do you want this? Do you really want it or would you just like to have it?
Some people think that they want something but they really don’t! Example. If you are married to Cruella de Vil, you might be saying that you want freedom from the corporate world so that you can have work-life balance, work from home, travel the world, but at every turn you self-sabotage yourself by doing things that keep you from achieving that thing that you think you want. Who would blame you? Who wants to see the world with Cruella de Vil? In this case, you might have to address a few other light switches before you really want to switch the one that gives you your ultimate thing – whatever that may be!
So again, I ask you what is the one thing that you want more than anything? And why? Why do you want this? Do you want it or would you just like to have it? Let’s not think about the how – not today!
Feel free to share with me. PM me, comment. I love these conversations!
Until Next Time,