Ladies we can be the most judgmental, catty, envious, and jealous group of people in a room. Face it. We have all either participated in the sport or fallen victim to it. It is not attractive.
Just being honest, I have done it too!
How do we stop? Simple, we fall in love with ourselves! We celebrate life everyday. We celebrate each other. We look for goodness and possibility through the lens of positivity and hope. We go for it – whatever it is. We focus with laser like precision on what we want. We live life on purpose and on a mission. My husband calls me the “get things done girl!” Your vision for your life should shine so brightly in your mind that people see it in the darkest room.
When we look down our noses at one another it only shows how truly insecure we are in ourselves. When we are not happy with where we are at, we are programmed not to want others to be happy or prosperous either. It is ugly!
The day before yesterday I picked my husband up from the airport. I had not seen him in two weeks! I dressed the part. When he saw me, I watched his eyes scan every detail and also saw him smile that I had cared enough about him to care about me. Reread that last line ladies. I had cared enough about him to care about me. Being in a relationship should not serve as an excuse to let ourselves go. We should constantly want to be our very best. Together we should achieve more. Marriage should take us further in life.
So, back to my airport story. There was a woman who quite literally looked me up and down three times. She shook her head with disproval. It was blatantly obvious. I wasn’t wearing a pink tutu and black hooker boots. Not this time, anyway! There would have been a time in my life that I would have allowed her actions to make me feel insecure – a time before I loved myself. A time before I felt amazing in my own skin. What did her actions tell me about her? She was insecure. Yep. Just like that I knew her. We all have a little of her in us or have had at some point in our lives. I did not even have to imagine the conversation that was taking place in her mind. I was all too familiar with it. I just gave her a gracious smile. In my heart, I truly wished her well. I want that woman to find the happiness that I have found. I also smiled at me. I liked the way that I looked and so did my husband. Her opinion mattered not.
It is imperative that we realize that people are going to project their realities into our interactions with them. We must choose what parts if any that we will allow, or accept into our minds. If people are telling us something contrary to what we believe, we need to use our virtual brooms to sweep that crap right on out. We have to remember that their reality is just that – theirs! It is time to stop allowing others disapproval, disbelief, complacency, unhappiness, or state of average to hinder our genius!
The moral: Dress for your own success. It starts in your mind. Clothe yourself in positive, possibility, and determination- even my dog is wearing a dress that says “fearless” today!
Until Next Time,