Hey you! Yes, you. No, not the person behind you, not beside you. You. Take a minute and go look at yourself in the mirror. Really, go do it. I will wait right here.
Great! You are back.
What did you see?
I can tell you what I see at the moment. A total mess. I had to get up and take my dear sweet man to the airport at 3:30 am! My hair is tousled. I am wearing comfy clothes and I have no make-up on. Normally, when I pick him up from the airport, I make it a point to look ahhhhmazzzing! Dropping him off at 3:30 a.m. NOT. SO. MUCH.
However, the way I look at this very moment is a matter of choice! I could go take a shower and get dressed for the office – or not! I choose not. My husband is away on business and Chloe and Mojo are not the judgmental types. Today is…work in my pajamas day.
That is what I want to talk to you about today. Choices. Do you realize that you truly are only one choice, one decision away from _____________? Weight loss. Career change. Relocation. An improved relationship with yourself or others. Starting a business.
Your choices are limitless. You get to fill in the blank!
What keeps us stuck in a holding pattern…on the runway of life? FEAR. The number one thing is absolutely, unequivocally fear. Fear of failure. Fear of embarrassment or looking silly. For me, I have always feared being homeless. Fear of what people will think. Let me use writing a book as an example. It is very much like giving birth in PUBLIC. People see your stuff! You become very vulnerable even if it is not autobiographical. People are going to judge. Your grammar. Your story. Your character (s). Guess what! They always do and they always will. I am about to say something very, very important. You will always be your own worst critic. No one judges us as harshly as we judge ourselves – not even Jesus! We give others so much power and authority over our lives when we worry about what they will think. When you just do and stop attaching yourself to the outcome but commit to enjoying the process, you become free.
Taking a leap and trying to do something even if it does not work out like you intended (back to disconnecting yourself from outcomes) you just might inspire someone else to try that thing, that they have had buried deep inside of them. Maybe they always wanted to be a photographer but put that idea on the back burner. WHY??? Why do we give up on our dreams so easily?!!
Segway! The second reason, we get stuck. So many of us are much more willing to sell our dreams for the safety and security of a salary and doing what we think others expect of us instead of betting on ourselves. You could say that goes right back to fear and in some respects you would be right. However, I dare say it is also complacency and settling for less because it is easier than the hustle. Dreams require dedication, hustle, hard work, intent, and effort especially if they are your dreams. You can very easily work toward someone else’s dreams without passion and commitment – that is called a job! I can assure you if you are placing your security in the hands of someone else, you have to be willing to accept the outcome – whatever that may be. Remember, I said that we need to become more focused on the process!
Yes, I know. We all have bills. I have them too! Lots of them. (Look for my blog about the very expensive GPS in my life coming soon!)
Go back to the mirror. What do you see? What dream is hiding behind your reflection? Remember you are only one decision away from whatever it is!
We get so caught up in our day jobs that we stop pursuing our daydreams!
Decide to do one thing (only one thing is achievable) that brings you closer to that dream every day until you own it! Commit to the hustle – your hustle!
Make the person that you see in the mirror, the person that you are!
Until Next Time,